It’s Wednesday and I am scheduled to write for Stuzz.com again. I have nothing to say. The SparkleFairy wants me to write about the whirlwind of new year compared to thoughts of Valentine’s. “Make it positive though,” she said. Positive hey?
So let’s begin by a heartwarming romantic gesture.
Famous baseball player Joe DiMaggio and Marilyn Monroe were only married for a volatile 274 days in 1954. Joe remained infatuated with the legendary blonde bombshell for the rest of his life. It was him who secured her release from a psychiatric ward when she suffered an emotional collapse in the wake of her divorce from Arthur Miller. Joe DiMaggio was reportedly considering proposing to her again before her death in 1962. Joe never remarried and refused to comment on her death to the press. In a famous romantic gesture, he sent red roses to her grave in Los Angeles, three time a week for the next 20 years.
How romantic is that?
“Gestures, in love, are incomparably more attractive, effective and valuable than words.” ~ François Rabelais, French writer
Anyway. This year is not going to be any different from any other year for me. It seems I will not have a special Valentine’s day, again. I’ve never celebrated Valentine’s day or done anything special on that day.
I know, Valentine’s day is more of a gimmick celebration but in my opinion, it is a good thing – if you want to make it a good thing of course. As humans we always tend to get wrapped up in our daily routines that we forget sometimes to celebrate little moments that could make a difference in our busy lives. Take a break and look around you, cherish the moments you have together.
It’s not that I have not wanted to celebrate Valentine’s day, it just never happened.
In my younger days, although rarely single for more than 3 days, I was only in short term relationships and those kinds of things were never on my mind. Then I met my now ex-husband who never cared for those things either. He did buy me flowers because I demanded them and because he knew what it would mean if he did not bring me flowers, especially on that special day but since I love flowers and at the time one of our employees was growing the most beautiful rose bushes I had ever seen, getting flowers was more of a routine, not something unexpected. And it would be hard for him to come home and say “Oops I forgot” because there were flower stalls on all busy roads on Valentine’s day. But I cannot call it an actual Valentine gesture.
With my ex-boyfriend, we were never in the same country on Valentine’s day, so our love was celebrated on Second Life which was romantic enough in its own right.
Daughter has been in a relationship for 4 years going on 5. They always celebrate Valentine’s day. Well those two always celebrate their ‘special’ moments so I guess there should not be any element of surprise. She always receives a beautiful bunch of flowers and not the cheap ones from the supermarket or the single rose you most often see for sale. They usually plan a dinner out. Last year, he planned it all and completely took her by surprise. Sometimes she buys him meaningful little stuff. (They do spend a lot more on their respective birthday and on Christmas. They go away on their anniversary).
I probably would do the same: expect flowers and go out for dinner. I would also buy, make or do something meaningful to us and that would be beautiful. Hopefully it will happen in my lifetime.
Nowadays, I tend to avoid going out on Valentine’s day because I will admit, on that day I am envious of others. Walking through the Plaza to see all those guys with a red rose in their hand, or choosing a Valentine’s Day card or gift. Go to the beach and it is like an invasion of couples walking hand in hand or snuggling on a towel as if it is the only day you are allowed to do so in public… When you are single for a while, you tend to notice even more those little details and it can be heartbreaking depending on your frame of mind.
I think it’s beautiful to celebrate a relationship of any kind. Come to think of it, maybe I should do something special with one of my besties, A, who is also single or we could even do it as a group since most of us are singles.
Whatever you chose to do or not do on Valentine’s day, enjoy 😉
Side note: On the other hand, if Valentine’s day can be a reminder of what you have – or would like to have – it’s not a miracle cure. If the relationship is broken, Valentine’s day is not going to fix it.